Reconsidering Sexual Stereotypes
Despite claims to the contrary, sex remains the most controversial and taboo of subjects. Despite progress on other fronts, the constructs and prejudices of "heteronormativity" continue to pervade our private lives and complicate our relationships.
So here’s a suggestion for the community this year: to forge a path outside of culturally defined norms by embracing a more inclusive and fulfilling sexuality. I’d like to see us challenge some of the walls that inhibit healthy sexual expression and identity.
This is a four-step process:
This is 2013. In an age of proven medical treatment and safety precautions, HIV no longer validates sexual exclusion. In fact, those who do not know their status pose a much higher risk to partners than positive individuals who are being treated.
Studies show that one-fifth of people with HIV are unaware that they have it. This means that the chance of a sexually active adult completely avoiding contact with a person who has contracted HIV is slim to none.
Penalizing someone with HIV for being honest isn’t in your health’s best interest. Assuming we’re talking about someone on retroviral drugs, the virus has been essentially eradicated from bodily fluids. While you should take the normal precautions, your risk of contracting the virus is lower than it would be with the average person. So don’t deny yourself meaningful experiences based on outdated science.
We’ve all seen the profiles. Glancing through profiles on gay hook-up sites can be like a trip back in time: "Masculine only"; "No Blacks or Asians"; "No one over 30." Others may not express their prejudices so openly, but too many of us retain feelings - conscious or subconscious - received via social conditioning.