Obsessive ’Smart Phone’ Use Is Just Plain Stupid
Last Saturday night, I was invited by a close friend to hear him DJ on the patio of the local gay pub and meet a young friend of his visiting from a nearby city. Upon meeting my friend and his lovely companion, I was flattered by his quick desire to "friend" me on Facebook; I happily obliged.
After a few cocktails, I invited the young friend inside the bar to dance. But to my astonishment, instead of just dancing with me, he proceeded to check his messages on his smart phone at the same time! After commenting on his strange behavior, he simply shrugged and within moments, left the dance floor (to answer messages, I presume).
Needless to say, he and I had minimal contact for the rest of the evening other than an occasional tight smile. He is still my "friend" on Face book -- but I don’t think we will be corresponding too frequently in the near future.
This young man’s strange behavior to me prompted this article, not only because of his decision to multitask while dancing but, that he was not alone in being involved with his phone at the moment. For just when I saw him on the phone, I also noticed at least four or five other men right behind him doing the same thing while standing around the dance floor waiting for someone to ask them to dance.
I had to ask myself, "Who’s going to ask them to dance if they’re busily focused on the face of the smart phone rather than the face of the potential dance partner or suitor?" After all, we all know, as in every culture, asking someone to dance shows sexual interest -- only in our world, it’s a more direct connection.
Upon reflecting on the evening and the astonishing behavior of several of my college students during my lectures and class presentations, I see an ever-increasing number of young people using their smart phones at the most inappropriate and dysfunctional settings.